Why does the grass look greener on the other side

Oh Facebook… I think it is a blessing and a curse all wrapped up into a marvelous social media bundle. I can proudly say that I have been on Facebook since 2003 (actually, it’s kinda scary knowing I’ve been on it this long), and it’s been a love/hate relationship for the past 16 years.

The awesome thing about Facebook is I can keep in touch with friends/acquaintances and feel like we are still in each other’s lives even though we are miles apart, or they’re not part of my immediate friend circle. The downside to Facebook is that it can cause me to compare my life with that of friends, and sometimes even strangers. People always put up the perfect picture posts, which only gives me a brief snapshot of the positive parts of their lives (oh Facebook lives are so perfect). In 2012, the American Academy of Pediatrics coined a new term called “Facebook Depression,” researchers realized that certain websites (Facebook included) can skew one’s reality (research, how I love thee).

I personally have taken month-long social media breaks to remind myself that God currently has me in the right season of life, and to also enjoy the world around me and not the one online. While I’m too busy watching other people’s lives, I am neglecting my own, and not really accomplishing much (it’s scary how much time we can spend on social media). This is why I coined this post “Is the grass really greener on the other side.”

Let’s think about it in practical terms. Say I’m standing in my yard (or creepily from my house window) watching my neighbor tend their plot of land. I believe their yard is gorgeous, and spend HOURS watching, even after they’ve gone inside. The time I spend gazing (or stalking… we all do it on Facebook) at my neighbor’s land takes away from working on my own land. Since I’ve neglected my own land by not working on it, I now have weeds, dry/brown patches, and a dead tomato plant. So in a way, yes, the grass is greener on the other side because I neglected my own land.

Now let’s say instead of concentrating on what my neighbor is doing, I put in the work needed on my land using the time God has blessed me with. My grass grows, my flowers bloom, and I might even have a few tasty tomatoes (maybe even gift some of my tomatoes to my neighbor). Since I was busily working on my land, I didn’t have time to obsessively compare. And after all that hard work, personally, all I would want to do is step back, and enjoy the fruits of my labor (oh the things you can do with tomatoes… so many recipes).

So, if you’re on social media, enjoy it for what it is: a way to keep tabs with friends, but please don’t use it as a marker of success, or where you should be in life. You are exactly where you need to be at this current time.

Please share your thoughts in the comments below, would love to hear your perspective!

With love,

Tifa

10 thoughts on “Why does the grass look greener on the other side

  1. I totally agree! God has us exactly where He wants us, and when we can accept that revelation the process becomes more enjoyable.

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  2. “the grass is greener on the other side because I neglected my own land”! Love it and very true. Or it can “seem” greener from the outside but you may not know what’s going on (inside). So imperative to use time to tend to your own family,relationships, and passions and Oh the fruit it will produce.

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    1. Love the perspective of “seems” which is so true! And we never know what is truly going on. It’s something I have to remind myself to enjoy the blessing I have now!

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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